Ladies and Gentlemen.
The Socceroos have made history, in beating Japan in an amazing come from behind 3-1 win. Japan scored amid controversy to go up one to nil, as our goaltender, Mark Schwarzer was impeded. The goal stood despite a vigorous appeal from the Aussie side. After the match the referee conceded he had made a mistake.
http://au.sports.yahoo.com/060611/2/r21p.html
Germany has won their first match, as has England. The Poles have run into problems and have lost twice. USA has been defeated also. The US seems to dominate so many sports but they certainly lag behind in soccer.
I need an opinion from ya.
Our office staff, four of us, had a heated exchange with each other. Things were said and opinions stated that I think some would like to take back. Does the office space function better when people have altercations like this? Or is it better that it never happens. What about within marriage. I have heard it said that if a marriage is without any fights ever, that it is an unhealthy one. Is this true?
And finally,
In Rio, a project involving street kids aimed at encouraging them to document their lives has taken place. The children were given cameras and encouraged to take pictures, which have been posted at BBC dot com. I have posted a few above. The boy pictured has since passed away due to the continued violence they face every day. Brasil seems to be infinitely more tolerant of poor people than Robert Mugabe of Zimbabwe, who sent in the bulldozers and destroyed their attempts to give themselves a home, and a sense of community. Again, we are so fortunate.
Em..
M..
ahem is for Mugabe
18 comments:
I don't know if it's good for altercations to take place within a work environment, I think possibley no. In a work environment you lack the type of trust and friendship that can take something offensive.
I think marriages have the potential to grow and deepen with a 'fight' I think you are forced to look at the cause and make the nescessary changes. But in marriages you have a trust of your partner a closeness that can withstand differences and can grow you. After all character is built in the storms, the struggles the trials. Same is true for marriages, they grow and strengthen and deepen with the storm, as you learn to fully trust one another and to gleen onto oneanother, and rely on one another.
Canadian soldiers will soon be able to order that large double-double they've been longing for. An aircraft carrying a Tim Hortons trailer landed in Afghanistan Monday and will open its doors on Canada Day.
what day is canada day? i think deb has been scared off. come back come back come back.
I don't think that a marriage that lasts forever is necessarily a healthy one, so my opinion on this matter may not coincide with yours. I believe a healthy marriage is one that makes you feel good. If it makes you unhappy, I think it's healthy to be apart from each other. But I can tell you something that I'm sure we can agree on: fights that occur because of grumpy bad moods and bickering can destroy healthy, happy relationships. Fights that occur because of differences of opinion may be a sign that each other's presence is not constructive to each other's lives, and more distance is required.
Two simple lessons from these facts: 1) when you feel irritable and annoyed, move yourself away from the people you care about so you don't destroy your relationship with them and push them away from you. 2) always understand that it may be necessary to part with somebody in your life at some point, and be mentally prepared to do it without holding grudges or harboring resentments or hatred.
If you are working with someone who starts an argument and raises their voice instead of calmly discussing the matter, you should try to find a way not to have to work with them anymore. There is ALWAYS a way to talk to people without turning it into a headache and a yelling contest, so anyone who is not capable is not mature enough to be working with someone as responsible and hard-working as yourself. The same applies in your worklife, though, about irritation and annoyance and grumpiness as in a marriage. You need a break and something healthy to eat and a brisk walk in the fresh air when you feel grumpy and irritable, or you are not only destroying your relationship with the people you work with, but also diminishing your esteem in their eyes.
As far as how to deal with an argument that has already happened and how to get along again and forget about it? Well I would say always be prepared to forgive and forget. If anyone shows a repetitive behaviour of insulting or harshly criticizing their fellow employees, this may be the last straw. But if it's a rare thing, then it may just be the product of a lot of stress and it may be time to all go play a game of soccer together and not discuss anything about it until after the game. At this point it would be wise to be prepared to offer apologies wherever they're needed, and be generous with them, and also to accept apologies and bury hatchets and tell people that you won't even give it another thought.
Hope that helps chanks. It's the best I've got for ya today.
Wow after writing all that, I AM sorry to have to put you through even MORE of my garble, but I just thought of something I wanted to add about married people arguing.
A constructive argument is one that involves a difference of opinion where both people can respect that the other must have a very good point to believe so strongly in what they're talking about and thus NOT GET ANGRY.
A DEstructive argument sounds like this:
"We should paint the walls in the bathroom red"
"NO! We ALREADY painted the walls in the DEN red! I'm SICK and TIRED of RED! NO MORE RED! The BATHROOM is going to be BLUE!"
"You are SUCH an IDIOT! BLUE is NOT the right colour for a BATHROOM! Why do I even ask you opinion ANYWAYS?!? You don't know a THING about decorating. Come back later, I'll have it all done nice and right."
"FINE!"
"FINE!"
These people need a divorce, and personal counselling, and perhaps to be institutionalized, and I'll bet you a lot of money they cause a lot of arguments in each of their respective workplaces.
Em = Environmental Management
M = Male
ahem = Used to attract attention or to express doubt or warning.
Robert Mugabe, ahem. The situation there was likened to a tsunami. Zimbabwe's Tsunami, controlled by the government.
I agree with AV, no matter how you slice it, the GOVERNMENT has the control.
This is one man's opinion.
The best thing about arguing is making up.
AV
I think it all comes down to respect.
If you respect another person you will becareful of the way you talk to them. If you lose respect then there needs to be a discussion on the matter. There is ussually a reason for being grumpy or irritable. These are signs or symtoms of another issue. Discuss it, deal with it, and move on. If you care about the person and the feeling is mutual then with alittle comunication things should be able to get worked out. If there are no fights or disagreements then maybe there is no passion.
I wasn't scared away lol, I don't have internet at home right now so have to beg to use other people's computers ...I have also been busy at work, they seem to think its okay to change my schedule when it suits them :)
I'm not even going to comment on arguing within a marriage or otherwise, I'm bitter, I can admit that, whatever I say may not even be what I truly believe in
Targo I didn't take offense to what you said, its your opinion, I respect that, something I wanted to make clear was that when I spoke of children immune to violence I was making a general statement from things I have seen in society not my children. My girls are 10 and 14 and very sensitive to the sufferings of the world, I have showed them what I believe in but I have also given them enough to allow them to have their own beliefs. I agree our children should be products of the parents, sadly though they are often a product of the government. We don't have a say in what they are taught in public school, they spend 5 days a week, 6 hours a day for 13 years there. Other than homeschooling them all I can do is be an active part in their lives, see what they are being taught and be there when they have questions.
Have a great day all!
You are so wonderful. If you, the reader, don't think I, Psam, really think you personally are wonderful, then at least humor me and dwell for a second on how wonderful you think you are yourself. Everything I've ever read on this website has been written by someone out of concern for others. Even the horse race stories that had the aim of getting people to feel that warm glow of a gut that hurts from laughing. I want to say thank you to everybody that I've directly or indirectly been in conversation with on this blog. I get a lot off my chest writing about the things that upset me in the world, and I get a lot of realization that a lot of other people are trying to pool their thoughts together too to try and see something get done about it.
More to the point, I want to apologize for when I've vented anger here and it's come out on other people, passing blame around. I abuse Mr. Bush a lot, but he's a human being just like everybody else. I have my doubts he'd ever read this himself, which is why I never feel like I've done a lot of harm writing things that are strong criticisms and even mockery. Nonetheless maybe my anger at him can frustrate other people. If you've been frustrated with anything I said, thank you for keeping your resultant abuse in a civilized and kind fashion towards me.
And I was JOKING when I insulted bench and chankslee in a paragraph last week, and NOBODY insulted me BACK which made me feel GUILTY because I thought maybe SOMEBODY would even CONSIDER the idea that perhaps I actually meant it. I'll break the silence on that one by saying joke's over bench and chankslee, you can both take a jab back at me now so I feel better. grrr.
The weather outside is frightful, and my dear four and twenty blackbirds are flying into the French consulate with an urgent message from Constantinople.
The weather is frightful! The Blackbirds tried to sit on the Bench but it was too wet! 2 of the black birds flew into a tree to keep dry but the tree was hit by lightening. Do you smell something cooking?
Interesting news article I heard on CBC radio last night about homeless people in Japan. Tokyo has less homeless people than New York, but still has a significant number. The government has never so much as acknowledged it. Recently Japan has decided to begin trying to do something about this problem. Congratulations Japan.
The next thing I would like to see happen in Japan is acknowledgement of the atrocities committed against the Chinese people during World War II. Germany has been paying reparations and making apologies for decades. It's time Japan owned up to their guilt and shame.
And another thing that would be nice to see is Canada owning up to the shame and guilt on the national conscience about the atrocities committed against the natives when the Europeans arrived here. Shoving money at them is a hit and miss scenario, often accomplishing nothing. What's really going to make a difference is not money. It's acknowledgement by the European descendents here that it actually happened, and a sympathetic ear to the natives. We come from one of the most savage, domineering cultures in the world. White European North Americans will be doing the world a favour if they begin to understand this and recognize it.
song lyrics anyone???
"Crazy" lyrics
I remember when, I remember, I remember when I lost my mind
There was something so pleasant about that phase.
Even your emotions had to let go
In so much space
And when you're out there
Without care,
Yeah, I was out of touch
But it wasn't because I didn't know enough
I just knew too much
Does that make me crazy
Does that make me crazy
Does that make me crazy
Probably
And I hope that you are having the time of your life
But think twice, that's my only advice
Come on now, who do you, who do you, who do you, who do you think you are,
Ha ha ha bless your soul
You really think you're in control
Well, I think you're crazy
I think you're crazy
I think you're crazy
Just like me
My heroes had the heart to lose their lives out on a limb
And all I remember is thinking, I want to be like them
Ever since I was little, ever since I was little it looked like fun
And it's no coincidence I've come
And I can die when I'm done
Maybe I'm crazy
Maybe you're crazy
Maybe we're crazy
Probably
the music can be heard here
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=47175537
Just reading these lyrics made me think abour 'ME's' comments about the government being in control..... the world is enough to make a sane person go crazy...either we're all crazy or none of us were sane to begin with
Boo!
Well, my darling Chankslee
It's time to write again.
My days, they feel so empty
My puters not the same.
Another blog needs posting
That I can pick apart.
I need to see some roasting
That come from the heart.
So why are you still waiting
Is there something wrong?
Get back to posting comments
Right where you belong.
(teehee)Silly me!
AV
The withdrawl is CRAZY here ! :P
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